IT HURTS!

If you’re reading this post I’m confident you have experienced and endured pain many times. I’m in one of those times myself this week and thought it might be therapeutic for me to write about it.

Pain has many faces with multiple levels resulting from a variety of causes. Our first thought when we think about pain is physical pain, but as common as it is, physical pain is not the only kind of pain or always the most hurtful.

In addition to physical pain, there is also emotional pain. And while there are other kinds of emotional pain, today I’m thinking about the emotional pain that accompanies grief. The basic definition of grief is “deep sorrow, especially caused by someone’s death.” I’m confident all of us have grieved the death of someone we loved and cared about.

The pain I am dealing with this week is not due to the passing of someone, but the death of our dog, Macy. In the same way that readers have grieved the loss of someone they love, most readers have also grieved the loss of a beloved pet.

A couple of quotes from an article I read Monday evening after Jan took her to the vet to be put to sleep helped me accept the deep pain I felt and the tears I shed. This observation was certainly true of Macy: “For many of us, a pet is not ‘just a dog’ or ‘just a cat,’ but rather a beloved member of our family, bringing companionship, fun, and joy to our lives.” And then the author described my response to our loss, “Most of us share an intense love and bond with our animal companions, so it’s natural to feel devastated by feelings of grief and sadness when a cherished pet dies.”

I didn’t need the advice of another writer, but appreciated the thought, “you should never feel guilty or ashamed about grieving for an animal friend.” A third writer’s insight is not especially encouraging, but may prove to be helpful: “The grieving process happens only gradually. It can’t be forced or hurried—and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving.”

This post may seem odd as the description of my blog is “Considering the Christian Life, the Bible, and the Church.” The death of a loved pet is not necessarily about the Bible or the Church; but it is part of the Christian life. I needed to write this and I hope you got something from it. Macy was a cherished part of our family the last 11 years and it hurts that she is gone.

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12 thoughts on “IT HURTS!

  1. Our pets do become part of our family and therefore we will grieve them when they leave us. It would be hard to trust a person a person who would not. You have my sincerest sympathy on your families loss. Bob, I remember how hard it is and grieve with you at this difficult time. God bless your family.

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  2. I would be heart broken if something happened to one of my puppydogs. They are like family. I have tears reading this because I can’t imagine losing one of my puppydogs. {{hugs}}

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  3. Our pets are definitely part of the family. We have experienced this loss ourselves a few years ago and remember Mike and I just standing in the kitchen and crying. I am so very sorry for your loss. It’s okay to grieve. Blessings to you and Jan

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  4. Dear Bob and Jan….it does hurt. We’ve cried tears also. Our pets are a place of absolute acceptance and love. They love us, comfort us and care for us in their way. We love you both.

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  5. I’m so sorry for you and Jan. I wish there was a way to make it hurt less. I love you both.

    On Thu, Jun 13, 2019 at 11:43 AM Pastor Bob Mink wrote:

    > bobmmink posted: “If you’re reading this post I’m confident you have > experienced and endured pain many times. I’m in one of those times myself > this week and thought it might be therapeutic for me to write about it. > Pain has many faces with multiple levels resulting from a” >

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  6. Bob and Jan, I am so sorry for your loss. Our pets become so much a part of our lives and our families. I know you will have an empty place in your heart for a while. I have prayed God will give you peace as you grieve.

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  7. We are so sorry for your loss and fully understand your grief. Our dog Maddie kept Greg company as he recovered from open heart surgery… she was so good for him during a very difficult time.
    Praying for you and Jan!

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  8. Bob,
    I was so sad to hear about Macy when Jan texted and then we talked on the phone earlier this week. I’m sorry that I don’t live close enough to have accompanied her to the vet. Orv and I have both experienced the loss of beloved pets, they do have a way of lodging themselves in our hearts and their loss certainly leaves a void. I am praying for comfort for both you and Jan. Macy was a sweet puppy and I will miss the walks that Jan and I took with her.

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  9. Our pets are able to fill that void that our other friends and family cannot. I don’t quite understand it, but am grateful to have it just the same. Jo Ann and I love our Pippin like a child. And he loves us back unconditionally for it. I guess God gives us this gift to help us cope with life. Comfort to you and Jan, God Bless…

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  10. I am so sorry for your loss. I recently went through this myself, it is never easy. Our pets do become so much a part of our lives. Praying for comfort for you and Jan!!

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